Identity Relations

Relationships of resonance, of complete understanding, but inability to help each other.

Understanding at the start and rivalry in the end. Because you are, in a way, claiming the same niche. Like in nature—at first, you plant one crop, and then plant the same crop again, and the soil quickly becomes depleted, leading to poor yields. There needs to be crop rotation. As in nature, so in people—you can't do the same thing all the time. Although everything is good at first, it later declines and ends badly. And biologically, you know that unions with close relatives are genetically harmful. Identity at first is like hybrids—a union that gives a big boost, but then it depletes and ends badly.

This person usually resonates with you right away, and is very easy to understand. You find yourself thinking, “I think the same,” “I agree with them,” “I'm into that too,” and so on. There's an instant connection.

At first, there's a spark with a person, you really want to communicate, but then it gets worse and worse, you get tired of it, and that's it. You like someone similar because they're interested in the same things; you have the same interests—so you're drawn to them, like attracts like. And right away there's a sudden spark. But then it starts to get annoying, the intensity drops, and you might end up parting ways completely. At first it's warm and passionate, and then it turns cold.

If it's that kind of marriage, it's usually a youthful marriage or a marriage between inexperienced people—when you choose someone similar to yourself, typically among teenagers (an emotional person with another emotional person, hanging out together, going to a concert, etc.). They get together, they're in love, but then something goes wrong, some disagreement happens, and everything falls apart—it's not a strong bond.

Scenario – at first, everything is great, love until the end of time, but then something goes wrong and they break up. This often happens among actors – emotional people are drawn to other emotional people, but then things overheat - someone has to be the calm one, otherwise there's no balance. They break up in an emotional whirlwind, cool off, then might get pulled back in—and this cycle can go on for a long time.

Identities eventually want to differentiate themselves—they want to be different, to express individuality and uniqueness. At first, they enjoy being similar, feel a resonance, but later they begin to separate: "I am not like them."

Purpose: Hobby

Integral Type: Seeker (ILE / +Ne)

Characteristics: Search

Suited for new solutions. Understanding without explanation—intuitive grasp. There's a constant desire to try something new. Relationships where you're always searching and never quite satisfied for long. You want to engage in something mutually interesting.

Symmetrical relationships (horizontal, as equals).